A negative pregnancy test - a chance for a new beginning
A new chance: The test was negative
Your test is negative! You probably feel a sense of great relief. If the test were positive, your life would have most likely been changed drastically. Now you can continue living your life as if nothing happened, but . . . Is that what you truly want? What will happen next time?
What now?
Now is the time to take a look at your live and ask yourself: "Is this the life that I really wanted?" Remember when you came to the clinic, you were worried about the possibility of being pregnant. Is that how you pictured your reaction to your first pregnancy?
If you live in a place where children are not welcome, maybe you need to consider the alternatives and the possibility leaving this environment. Think about the following questions and be honest with yourself.
Is this how I pictured my life when I dreamed about having my own family?
Is this really the man that I would want as the father of my children?
Am I content with my life and the decisions that I have made to this point?
If you answered no to any of these questions, this might be a good time to make new decisions and incorporate positive changes into your life. Your life can look a lot different. You are capable of making wise decisions and good choices. Continue reading in order to find out more.
Your Future/ Starting over:
A negative test can be the end of your worries for today, but it can also be the beginning of a new (and better) chapter of your life. A negative test can be a good motivation for change.
If you really want to start over, you need to make some important decisions. These decisions are the key to your better future. You can achieve anything you want, no matter how impossible it may seem to you at this moment. Don’t leave this decision for tomorrow, make a decision today!
First Decision:Sex
The first decision that you need to make is to consider abstinence until marriage. This can sound funny and old fashioned, but it is one of the most important steps that you need to make.
Sex is very important for men and women. When you are having sex outside of marriage, you are sharing something precious with a person you may not be with long-term.
Inside marriage, sex is beautiful, full of meaning and love. Outside of marriage, sex can be something that your partner insists on, something that keeps him or her in the relationship, or something that is done without commitment, love, or care.
What if I do not want to stop?
Only you can make decisions about your own life.
Unplanned pregnancy (maybe the reason why you are here) changes your life. If you are sexually active, there is a chance you will get pregnant. Every year, fourteen of every one hundred women get pregnant while using condoms. Four to five out of one hundred women get pregnant while using contraception.
Another serious problems can be contracting sexually transmitted infections.. There are 19 million new cases of STDs every year. (1) Some of these infections are not only uncomfortable but can also be dangerous. Some sexually transmitted diseases are incurable life-long infections, while others can cause life-threatening diseases and even death. Again, contraception pills do not offer protection against sexually transmitted diseases, and condoms only offer protection from some of these diseases.
Second Decision:
One of the most important questions which you must ask yourself: "Is my partner the one for me:" This might not be an easy decision, but it will be very important for your future.
Try to answer these questions:
Does my partner love me more (my character) or does he love sex more?
Am I really important to him?
Does he put my needs before his?
Is he only taking advantage of me?
You deserve a partner that will one day be a good father. If your current partner does not have a desire to become a father, maybe it is time to consider the future of your relationship. This is easier said than done. However, try to find strength and make the right decision. Be responsible and think of yourself and your future.
Third Decision:
Maybe you are asking: "Will I get the help I need?" Choosing abstinence before marriage and choosing the right partner is not an easy task. We want you to know that you are not alone. We would really like to help you, and together, find the best solution for your current situation.
Information about the test
There are two different types of pregnancy tests - a urine test and a blood test. Both tests reveal the presence of the hormone HCG, which the body starts producing after an embryo attaches to the uterine wall. Urine tests usually discover the presence of HCG, usually 14-16 days after ovulation, and it is very precise when done correctly. (99% precise)
A negative urine test does not necessarily mean you are not pregnant. Weakened kidneys can also influence test results. A blood test is more precise, especially if done every two days over a period of time. In any case, we recommend you visit a doctor if you think you might be pregnant.
References:
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Cates W, McPheeters M. Adolescents and Sexually Transmitted Diseases: Current Risks and Future Consequences. Workshop on Adolescent Sexuality and Reproductive Health in Developing Countries: Trends and Interventions. National Research Council. Washington, DC. March 25, 1997.
National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases. Workshop Summary: Scientific Evidence on Condom Effectiveness for Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) Prevention. Herndon, VA: Hyatt Dulles Airport, June 12-13, 2000 and the follow-up report: Fact Sheet for Public Health Personnel, Male Latex Condoms and Sexually Transmitted Diseases, found here, accessed 5-11-09.
U.S. Food and Drug Administration, Consumer-Friendly Birth Control Information, accessed on 5-14-09.
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, National Center for HIV, STD and TB Prevention, Divisions of HIV/AIDS Prevention, Sexually Transmitted Diseases, Fact Sheets found here, accessed 5-14-09.